For practitioners

A co-parenting app you can recommend to both parties.

Most paid co-parenting apps bill per parent, so a recommendation only works if both parents agree to pay. In a high-conflict matter, one of them usually won't.

KidsFirst is free for both parents. There is no second bill, so there is no second-parent problem, and no party can decline on cost.

The adoption problem, and why it doesn't apply here

The practical objection to recommending a co-parenting app is rarely the software. It's that one parent subscribes, the other refuses, and the tool half-works, or the first parent ends up subsidising their ex. Per-parent pricing builds that failure mode in.

KidsFirst is free, every feature, for both parents. Both parties can be directed to it without either being asked to fund the other's access. Among the paid apps, 2houses is the exception worth knowing: one subscription covers the family, so it has no second-parent problem either.

For a practitioner, the useful part is the adoption dynamic, not the price. A free tool for both sides removes the most common reason a co-parenting app never gets used after it's recommended.

The record

KidsFirst keeps a shared, time-stamped record of messages, calendar entries and expenses. Two properties matter for evidentiary purposes:

  • Messages can't be edited or deleted once sent. Neither parent can revise the history after the fact, so the thread stands as it was written.
  • Either parent can export a full thread as a timestamped PDF, from within the app. This is the feature family lawyers ask about most.

Account deletion is honoured on request, so the record is not represented as permanent or court-certified. What a parent deletes is their own account and access, not the shared history: messages, documents, events and expenses already exchanged remain visible to the other parent. That makes it a clear, contemporaneous communication trail that one party cannot unilaterally withdraw, which is what a dedicated co-parenting app is usually recommended for in the first place.

What the AI Conflict Filter does to that record

The record shows the message as delivered. That is worth understanding before you recommend KidsFirst, because it differs from how other apps' AI features behave.

Other co-parenting apps detect tone and advise the sender: OurFamilyWizard's ToneMeter AI and CoParenter's flagging both warn the person typing, who can dismiss the warning and send the original anyway. KidsFirst rewrites instead. The sender reviews the calmer version before it goes, so nothing material is lost, but the rewritten version is the only version delivered, and the filter cannot be switched off.

It is designed so hostile messages are rewritten before they land, rather than flagged afterwards. It is AI and therefore best-effort, not a guarantee that nothing objectionable will ever arrive.

Data handling

  • Australian data residency. Held on AWS infrastructure in Australia.
  • Encrypted in transit (TLS 1.2+) and at rest (AES-256).
  • Personal details are removed before a message reaches the AI model, so it works on the tone of a message rather than on family identities. Automated and best-effort.
  • Messages are never used to train AI. They are processed only to run the Conflict Filter, within AWS.
  • No one on the KidsFirst team can access private records. This is enforced by how the app is built, not by policy alone.
  • Photo location data is stripped on upload, so a shared photo doesn't disclose a parent's address.
  • Compliant with the Privacy Act 1988 (Australia), the Privacy Act 2020 (New Zealand) and the Personal Data Protection Act 2012 (Singapore).

Full detail is in the Privacy & Disclaimer Statement. KidsFirst is a communication tool, not a legal enforcement service: where a Family Court Order or Protection Order applies, compliance remains the parties' responsibility.

Cost, for context

Because most competitors bill per parent, the figure a separated family pays is roughly double the advertised price.

  • OurFamilyWizard – AUD $199.99–$399.99 per parent per year, so AUD $399.98–$799.98 for a family.
  • TalkingParents – USD $7–$32 per parent per month; its free plan ended 30 March 2026.
  • AppClose – USD $7.99–$8.99 per parent per month; its free model ended 1 January 2026.
  • 2houses – USD $169.99 per family per year, one subscription covering both parents.
  • KidsFirst – free, every feature, both parents.

Prices checked 4 September 2026 against each company's own pricing page, quoted in the currency that page publishes. AppClose and TalkingParents operate fee waivers on application for financial hardship and for parents in domestic violence situations, so a paid app should not be assumed to be out of reach. Competitor names are used for honest comparison; they do good work too.

Who builds it

KidsFirst is Australian, founder-led and community-built. It was started by Vincent, a father who went through high-conflict co-parenting himself, and it runs on AWS infrastructure in Australia, supported by AWS's startup program. We're not run to make a profit: any money it brings in goes back into keeping it free and reaching more families, and we're working toward formal charity registration.

We're a company, not a registered charity or not-for-profit at this stage, and we don't describe ourselves as one. How KidsFirst is built and funded sets out the full picture.

Get in touch

For professional, referral or partnership enquiries, including bulk information for a practice or service: [email protected].